How to Get Over the Emotional Trauma From Failed Relationships, like A Breakup or Divorce, and Rebuild Your Life Positively.

What is Emotional Trauma?

We will now, look at the meaning of Emotional Trauma and how it can occur in one’s life. In subsequent lessons, I will share my tried and tested tools and strategies that will help you overcome your own emotional trauma.

What is Emotional Trauma and why is it so debilitating?

Here’s a definition from the American Psychological Association (APA):

“Emotional trauma is a type of damage to the mind that occurs as a result of a severely distressing event. Trauma is often the result of an overwhelming amount of stress that exceeds one’s ability to cope, or integrate the emotions involved with that experience. Trauma may result from a single distressing experience or recurring events of being overwhelmed that can be precipitated in weeks, years, or even decades as the person struggles to cope with the immediate circumstances, eventually leading to serious, long-term negative consequences.”

Source: American Psychological Association (APA), “Trauma and Psychological Trauma.” Available online at:

What Are The Causes of Emotional Trauma?

Traumatic events cause emotional trauma.

Such events come in a range of shapes and forms.

Some traumatic experience examples tend to be unexpected and isolated, rather than ongoing.



That includes such things as:

– Hurricanes and other natural disasters

– Sexual or physical assaults

– The death of a loved one

– Divorce or a Breakup after long time together

– Witnessing severe violence toward others

– Severe physical injuries

And so much more.

Other events may recur repeatedly or remain a constant in everyday life. Common examples of traumatic events in this category include:

– Long-term physical, sexual or emotional abuse

– Living in a war zone

– Growing up in an area affected by gang violence

Any of these events can challenge your mind’s normal coping mechanisms. When this happens, you have a traumatic emotional reaction.

Getting through a breakup or divorce is a very difficult thing, because one’s hope of having a loving partner, with whom they can share their sad and happy times, is now shattered. The tendency is for one to feel “desolate, abandoned and alone”. It can cause Emotional Trauma for the individual.

Your breakup or divorce may have caused you your current emotional trauma.

Please complete this lesson by watching the Video for Lesson One.