MODULE ONE – LESSON FOUR: THE IMPORTANCE OF SELF-CARE.
THE IMPORTANCE OF SELF-CARE.
Hello and welcome back!
By now, I hope things are becoming clearer for you and your mind is beginning to calm down.
It takes time. Celebrate every little win!
In this lesson we will look at the Importance of Self-Care. This is crucial for your healing process.
Self-care means exactly what it says – looking after yourself or taking good care of yourself.
After a traumatic event such as a divorce or a breakup, you need to look after both your emotional and physical well-being.
Self-care is hugely important because unless you are healthy and emotionally sound, many things will go wrong in your life.
Are You Still Weepy.
You know it’s okay to cry. Yes, you can cry, hopefully, in private, when you feel like you are getting overwhelmed by your negative emotions.
Here are some ways to reduce your weepiness.
Take Control of your Space at home.
–Remove all reminders of your Ex. Things like photographs, clothes, books, etc.
–Replace them with images that bring you comfort, positive quotes, photos of you and your children, etc
–Stop referring to your Ex by their actual name. Reduce him/her to just “My Ex” or Just by the first letter of their name.
Reduce the Image Of Your Ex in Your Life to a Minimum.
–Stop retelling your miserable story to every Dick and Harry. People don’t really care… They have their own issues to deal with. Besides, the more you talk about your Ex and your breakup or divorce, the more miserable you’ll be.
–Create a new email address for Your Ex and the Court issues, so that the annoying emails from your Ex’s lawyer or from your Ex, do not interfere with your normal emails. Then choose to check this only when you think you can handle any negativity effectively.
Here are some ways to start caring for yourself.
Practise Self-love by forgiving yourself. Show a lot of love to yourself by being kind and caring to yourself. Accept what has happened and do not beat yourself up for it.
When I was 23 years old, I lost my 4-month-old baby girl after a 3-day illness. I found it extremely hard to process my loss. She was my second child.
When I went back to my Course at the University after that loss, a Reverend Gentleman, one of our Professors, gave me a framed Quote which gradually helped me to let go of my immense pain.
“God, grant me the serenity to accept
the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.”
– Attributed to Reinhold Niebuhr, Lutheran theologian (1892–1971).
Practise repeating this humble request from God (or whoever you believe in).
It helped me heal, because I let go of the things I couldn’t change – eg, bring my daughter back from the dead. I started practising how to move on with positivity.
I told myself: “God knows best. You are still young. When the time is right, you will have another child.” As God would have it, I went on to have five more children.
Complete the Lesson by Watching the Video to the End. There are many more strategies that will help you in there.
Assignments for Lesson 4.
1. Create a Self-Care Regime Timetable for yourself. Write down in your Journal what went well during the week.
2. What can you improve on?
4. Research “Mindfulness” and make notes on how you can use this to help you improve your Self-care and heal.
Additional Resourse.
I suggest you pick up this image beloew and recite the words daily. If you wish, you can also frame it and put it where you ae able to see it every day.
MESSAGE FROM ME.
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Congratulations on reaching the end of this Module One.
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